The Liars Weakness

Teenagers. When adults describe them, they’ll say things like ‘obnoxious,’ ‘rude,’ ‘self-absorbed.’ That just isn’t the reality of the situation. In actuality, teenagers are on a road to find themselves. This road is infinite and on fire. It is hell. So, when they reach the end, they are bound to have learnt some vital lessons. E. Lockhart’s poignant novel ‘‘We Were Liars’’ and Ryan Padovani’s poem ‘‘I’m Only as Weak as I Think’’ is quite possibly the story of a teenager's life. The narrators, through the use of metaphors, are demonstrating one running from their weaknesses and failures, convincing themselves that they’ll be alright, even if it is not true. But how does one go their entire life without an inch of doubt haunting them? In ‘‘We Were Liars’’ and ‘’I’m Only as Weak as I Think’’, through the use of metaphors, we learn that when we feel like failures and feel the weakness that comes with it, we must remember that it is only a barrier on the road we are taking to find ourselves.

86400 seconds in a day, 1440 minutes and 24 hours. Your mind is never at rest. The emotions you hold captive in your head are completely your own. So, how do you expect anyone to understand them? Lockhart and Padovani use metaphors to help the reader understand the captive thoughts. Lockhart uses this technique to help reader delve into Cadence’s intricate mind and fully understand her. We are able to acknowledge how crucial moments in Cadence’s life impact her. When her father left her, trampling on any pride or strength she had left and he ‘pulled out a handgun and shot [her] in the chest. [She] was standing on the wall and [she] fell. The bullet hole opened wide and [her] heart rolled out of [her] rib cage and down into a flower bed. Blood rushed rhythmically from [her] open wound, then from [her] eyes, [her] ears, [her] mouth. It tasted like salt and failure. The bright red shame of being unloved soaked the grass in front of [their] house, the bricks of the path, the steps to the porch. [Her] heart spasmed among the peonies like a trout.’ The pain Cadence feels, in this extended metaphor, is so immense that it resembles a bullet in the heart. The immense pain and ‘shame of being unloved’ is eventually what built up Cadence’s personality and the inner conflict she faces on a daily basis. It sprouts the idea of her tendency to run from anything that may make her vulnerable, which carries through the entire book. None of us are truly able to express ourselves in a way that makes perfect sense to others. We are angry, sad, confused, excited, irritated. And we just do not know how to explain what we are thinking. If an explanation meaning having an expressive outlet. Padovani and Lockhart use metaphors to help readers relate. Padovani’s speaker feels a ‘war within, moves [moving] around with nowhere to hide.’ This is supporting the idea of inner conflict. A war is essentially two or more sides fighting for something they believe in. A war inside one’s head is two or more contradicting thoughts fighting to influence one’s actions. The speaker and Cadence both have so many thoughts crossing their mind and they can not seem to push it away. Much like you, the reader. The metaphors in both of these texts represent the complex thoughts individuals have that do not seem to make sense to others, but they also represent the light at the end of the tunnel. When people finally understand you, through the use of universal emotions.

Failure : Noun
Lack of success.

We have all been there. That dark place where our self-doubt takes over our mind. There is no way to control it. Musky echos that poison our poise. Failure feels like regret, disappointment, and an incompetent performance. In both texts, the speakers share this common feeling of failure. In Cadence’s life, ‘no one is a failure.’ Except Cadence feels like she is. While they both share this idea of being a failure, what is different is the way they both handle it. Ryan Padovani's speaker feels like it isn’t necessary to acknowledge it. The speaker thinks it is best to just ignore that feeling. ‘Anger within, but no need to look back.’ The speaker is filled with regrets, frustration and ineffable emotions and doesn’t want to even acknowledge the mistakes they have made. On the other hand, Cadence, like any other teenager, is on the road to accepting feeling despite it being very hard. When she says ‘I [She] will prove myself [herself] strong’ she wants to convince herself that she can overcome the feeling she has of being a failure in the Sinclair family. The feeling of failure is incredibly common amongst teens, whether you feel like you failed your mother, your sibling or yourself, teens need to remember that like Cadence, accept it and prove that your are more than that mistake you made. Despite what people say, one or two mistakes doesn’t make you a failure.

As mentioned earlier, teenagers are on a road to find themselves. So while they are travelling they are simply confused teenagers feeling the aftermath of external pressure. Pressure from peers, parents, media are all elements that shatter teenagers confidence and cause the weakness that is ever so present in their life. Looking at Cadence’s story, we see the progress she made from being closed off and sensitive to ‘not actually caring.’ When teenagers pass the part of the road that, like Ryan Padovani’s speaker is passing, is filling them with the thought that ‘controlling [yourself] will keep [you] from being weak.’ They learn important morals that ultimately stick with them throughout their life. At the end of ‘’We Were Liars’’, Cadence, after reaching the end of her road, learns quite possibly the most important lesson in her life. That is to ‘be a bit kinder than you have to.’ Whereas, in the poem ‘’I’m Only as Weak as I Think’’, by the end of it, all the speaker has learnt is ‘controlling [yourself] will keep [you] from being weak.’ Which is not the right thing to take away from everything that you’ve dealt with. We are human. We have struggles in life. We have regrets, fears and haunting memories but after you let go of your past, come to terms with it, you are going to reach the end of your road much faster.

In both ‘’We Were Liars’’ and ‘’I’m Only as Weak as I Think’’, the authors, E. Lockhart and Ryan Padovani show the conflict teenagers face daily and by reading the end of both texts, you can see the difference it makes when you finally accept who you are, mistakes you’ve made and lies you’ve told. As a teenager myself, I’m still on the road to finding myself and letting go of my past. It is not easy. But what I hold onto is the hope that the end of my road will teach me as many things as it did to Cadence. Ultimately, no one can tell you if you’re reaching the end. The end of your road depends on the kind of person you are and the actions you choose to do. Even though we all want to reach the end of the road, only you can decide if like Ryan Padovani’s speaker, you want to be stuck with a closed mindset or if you want to be like Cadence and reach the end a better person.

Teenage Insecurity

Oh the things we do to fit in. We go so far but really? How far are we going?

It’s a Wednesday afternoon and a girl is crying in the bathroom alone because she doesn’t feel good enough. She put in so much effort into studying at home but she get’s a 4 in her test. She decides to lie to her parents because she doesn’t want to let them down. She lied to the people closest to her. But why?

Feeling like you're not good enough is very common. A middle school student quotes, “Because we have access to the internet, we have created this perfect body image that nobody can achieve”. This evidence signifies that if a girl doesn’t feel like she meets the standard of the perfect girl, then she is useless and isn’t perfect but then again, nobody is perfect. Middle school girls can feel many different ways. Like they’re not smart enough, popular enough, fun enough, good enough for anyone and anything. They can feel like this at home, at school, with their friends and when they’re alone.

More and more teens are feeling insecure everyday and one of the main factors of this is social media. Most girls have social media. According to Jon Negroni, he says that “Bragging can cause low self-esteem. As a result of this, it’s not just bragging anymore, it’s become a social competition.” Teens go on social media and see what other people are doing and how much fun they’re having. This causes them to feel left out and them wanting what that person has. But why would we want what others have when we could have just as much as them.

Why can’t we accept what we have and what we don’t have. Why do we have the want for everything else? Why can't we accept what we have and who we are and not try to change because everybody is perfect and nobody should have the want to change to get someone’s approval.

Social media does have its’ pros and cons for example seeing what your family is doing and keeping in touch with friends but then again, social media can lead to insecurity and in major cases depression. Social media can be perceived in many different ways, many good and many bad. That’s all up to the person who is affected by social media in the first place.

Another factor that plays a big role with insecurity and teens is not talking to their parents/ guardians. 7 in 10 girls believe that they are not good enough or measure up to their parents expectations. What is revealed here is that girls need to talk to their parents about their expectations and what they can and cannot achieve. Being scared about your parents is not the way to go. The top wishes among teenage girls is to communicate with their parents better.

This indicates that if teens just talked to their parents, they wouldn’t have to be insecure about most the things they are with. They wouldn’t need to be scared of not looking good enough for their friends, for getting the best grade on a test and fitting in. Because if girls just talked to their parents, they could receive some great advice which would help them in the future, for anything. Talking to your parents could be the easiest remedy for teen insecurity.

If you are feeling insecure for whatever reason, try talking to the people closest to you. For example your parents/ guardian, teachers or friends. They will understand what you're going through and will want to help you as much as they can. Another thing to try is disconnecting from social media for a while. Enjoy your life as it is and not what other people are doing in tiny minescule pictures on your screen. If you want to wear something or do your hair in a different way, just do it. Nobody should care what people think because if you like it, then that's what matters. What matters is that you're happy and that you are living life to the extreme.

We need strong empowered woman in this world and if girls are feeling insecure about how they look, the world is going to crumble. Yes boys do work and put in the effort and woman can do the exact same thing as them and in some cases, even better. If girls are insecure, the school will struggle. No one will have a strong opinion about how girls are treated and act making the boys push the girls around. Girls should be able to stand up for themselves but if everyone is insecure and afraid, then how are girls going to stand up for themselves in the real world past school?

What if most of the girls in the world were insecure, what would the world look like? Girls would have no rights or any privileges.  If you know you are insecure or know somebody who does feel insecure, talk to them and all of their problems could be solved. You just need to talk.

Tourist Ethnicity Is A Problem Now?

You would think that by now in 2015, racism and the stereotyping of people might have diminished but this isn’t true at all. Tourists are still getting targeted in other countries because of simple differences like skin tone and language. It might not seem possible, however this is exactly what happened in mid-july at Ocean Park, Hong Kong.

A ‘mainland’ chinese tourist group was passing through the theme park when a man stopped a random indian teenage girl and asked to take a picture with her. The girl was a student from UWCSEA and was visiting Hong Kong with her friends. The situation was quite awkward and seemed to be based on the conjecture from the chinese tourist. This teen having come from an international school thought little of the event and agreed to take the picture to the surprise of many. Witnesses at the event also saw this teens friends attempt to talk to the man and his partner but were unable to make out the man’s intentions.

This may seem like an isolated incident but it’s not. A local Hong Kong resident claims that “this incident was racially motivated and this sort of thing happened all the time.” She also added that “ it was just a simple case of ignorance.”